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THE YES GAME
Is Not A Game ~ It's A Solution
Rape - Sexual Harassment - Abuse

After hearing the disturbing news reports of date rape and other sexual abuses
on campuses, and the rather casual way universities and the authorities continue to
turn a blind eye to these horrendous offenses, I wondered how I might apply
my area of Expertise  ~ Cognitive Skills Training ~  for a positive solution.

In one news report, an advocate for women who was being interviewed stated,
“Men need to understand that NO means NO and that ONLY YES can mean YES.”
 
She went on to say,
“I realize that asking ahead of time, “Can I have sex with you,” isn't very sexy.” 
My first response was, “Wow, you got that right. That is most definitely Not Sexy.”
But the seed had been planted and I started thinking how to bring it to fruition.
I knew what I could bring to the table. The problem would be getting compliance.

As Long as Men Think of Sex as Conquest,
They Will Continue to Think of Women as Prey.

I postulated, men would need An Incredibly Big PayOff in order to convince them to give
up their age old attitudes of entitlement and behavior where women are concerned. Not the
least of which might be plying women with alcohol & drugs or just plain Intimidation & Force.

                            Objective 1:  Find A Sexy Way of Asking for Sex. 
                            Objective 2:  Find A Big PayOff - To Get Everyone to Comply. 

For Women I found that if a man asked certain easy questions, before making even small
advances in intimacy, that will put her at ease and honor her. And It’s Sexy Too. 
✓ 1
This gives women the safe, anxiety free environment they need to build Self-Confidence &
The Sense of Empowerment and Control they need to be more Sexually Responsive. ✓ 2 

For Men An Approach System that defines permissive boundaries without limiting sex✓ 1
Then the extra benefit of having a more responsive, engaging partner while
The Yes Game enables the men to develop their own Heightened Sexual Responses. ✓ 2

And There It Is ~ The Big PayOff ~ Making it Worth Doing the Right Thing. 
Small Permissions ~ That Lead to Heightened Sexual Experiences.

~ We Then Modified Our Intimacy Enhancement Programs Into ~

The Yes Game

Above and Beyond Stress has been training Individuals, for decades, in developing their 
Cognitive Skills. To adopt the most effective thought processes to achieve their goals both 
Personally and Professionally.

If we can enlighten 2 minds at a time to remove Conquest from Sex & replace it with an 
open joyful dialogue of mutual respect, perhaps we can create a Culture of Honor & Sharing.

Asking A Woman For Small Permissions Which Define the Permitted "Playground."
Empowering Women With The Word Yes !
And No And Stop.

Parents May Wish To Order For Young Adults Going Away From Home.
The Yes Game Is About Having Dialogue BEFORE Falling Into The Age Old Traps.


Cognitive Skills Training
Developing The Thought Processes
That are Most Effective for Achieving Your Goals.

It’s no secret that some ways of thinking are Supportive, Uplifting and Build Self Confidence,
Joy and Happiness. While other ways of thinking Undermine our Self Esteem, Sabotage our
Goals and Increase Anxiety, Phobias, Depression and Helplessness.

Obviously, if every time a person thinks of sex they are filled with anxiety, guilt, shame,
embarrassment or dread, or even just a negative attitude, it will impede, reduce and
possibly block their ability to Experience Joyful Feelings and Normal Sexual Health.
Cognitive Skills Training can help turn that around.

The Yes Game Is Not A Game At All
It's A Solution.


THE PRIMARY PREMISE:
Only a Sober Yes Can Mean Yes.
LACK of NO - IS NOT Yes !

Seeking to eliminate bad behavior by reducing the perceived need for a man to approach
sex in a sneaky or underhanded manner. Offering, In Trade, an Alternative Method of
Approaching and Engaging that is More Desirable for both parties.

The Yes Game
Enhanced Sexual Experiences,
As A Reward for Fair & Honorable Behavior.

Even so, some people don’t approve of talking about Sex. The Yes Game Is specifically talk
of sexual Limits & Parameters. Most will agree that Good Clean Sex is always better than
an Accidental, Life Changing Pregnancy, STD, Rape or Rape Charges, Trauma, Injury or
Loss of Sexual Health. Especially given that you can count on experimentation with sex
happening rather frequently. Better for our kids to be Informed, Prepared & Ready to
Set Their Limits.

After all, we have tried;
“Sex is Bad, Don’t Talk About Sex.”
For A Very Long Time.

Teach our young men to Stop and Ask Themselves:
        “Who do I want to be For The Rest of My Life?”
        Nobody starts out aspiring to be A Registered Sex Offender.

        Save our young women from the trauma of Abuse & Rape.
        Save our young men from a life of Shame & Ostracism.